A-to-Z 2015 J is for Judgement

Judgement. Grandma never judged anyone. She was a very strong Christian and it was her belief that we are not to judge others. That was God’s job she would say. I think it makes life easier if you don’t judge people.  That doesn’t mean that you have to accept their bad behavior, but you focus on the behavior and not the person. You can judge an action, but do not judge the person. This is what I learned from Grandma about Judgement.

Quote from Seneca on praise and blame.

Quote from Seneca on praise and blame.

15 thoughts on “A-to-Z 2015 J is for Judgement

    1. shawn

      We all observe and draw conclusions, but we should not stand in judgement of an individual. When I have judged someone, often times I find that I did not have all the facts and have to re-evaluate. Rather than judge, I strive to understand.

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      1. gpcox

        Ah, that’s where mistakes are made. As my father always said, “There are always at least 3 sides to every story.”

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  1. V.L. Jennings

    It is quite ok to not like the ACTION and still like the person. Well said!
    However, in this day and age, as soon as you admit that you don’t like something that someone is doing they automatically assume you hate THEM as a person. -.- (be it smoking, or drinking, or other more polarizing issues of today’s age)
    Just because I don’t like my child’s temper-tantrums doesn’t mean I hate him 😉

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  2. shanjeniah

    To me, this is exactly what’s missing in many people who call themselves Christians – the humility to know that there are always things we don’t know.

    Sometimes behavior is reprehensible, and can’t be overlooked. Sometimes, we need to use our judgement in deciding whether to engage with someone whose past behavior suggests that there’s danger in it. Often, we need to use judgement in our own actions.

    But I’m learning that it’s possible to do all those things, and still have compassion for the whole person. Something has led each of us to this place in our lives, to be the people we are. Even we don’t know the entirety of what that is, for ourselves – so how can we know it for others?

    I think I would have liked your grandma.

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    1. shawn

      I think you would have liked her too. It really is not easy sometimes to separate people’s actions from their individual person. I know what to do, but it’s not always easy. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts!

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  3. Sue Archer

    I think it’s too easy to judge others, but hard when you feel judged yourself. People should remember what that feels like before they are too harsh on others. Also I think that no one really knows what is going on inside a person, so as you say, you can not like an action, but that’s not the same thing as making assumptions about the person.

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  4. Snarky Momma With Love

    Your grandmother sounds a lot like mine. I have always told my kids that I will love them forever no matter what but somedays I might not like them very much and those will be the days they pissed me off. I tried to make sure they understood I would be able to separate their behavior from them as people.

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    1. shawn

      That is great! Children are both a gift and at times a challenge. Glad you are trying to set them on the right path. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.

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  5. roweeee

    Judgement has been a very topical issue in Australia lately. Last week, two Australians were executed on drug trafficking charges. They had spent 9 years in prison and during this time had become Chjristians and radically reformed. ONe became an artist and the other one a Church Pastor. They went fom a lifestlye where they were harming people to doing tremendous good. My attitude towards these men did a complete 360 and I wanted to see them spared the death penalty. The Australian governemnt and many other Australians got behind them and campaigned for clemency but to no avail. Their case broughtout a lot of debate. Some people thought they deserved to die. Others not. Australia has now withdrawn our ambassador to Indonesia as a result.
    Just food for thought.

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    1. shawn

      It is never easy when some one’s life is involved. However they knew the risks when they engaged in illegal activities in a country with harsh penalties. That being said I believe in giving people a second chance. If they screw up again I’m less inclined to clemency.

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      1. roweeee

        It was hard with this pair. I thought they were complete idiots at the time but they changed so much and I know through my own experiences of how God works in us and also through brain plasticity, that we can become new creations. The trouble is that that new creation is still housed in the same old body and has to work around in its shoes, which isn’t always just. It is very hard for so many of us to make a clean break and start over when given that second chance.

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