Monthly Archives: November 2015

Hospitality is important

Hospitality is important

Hospitality is Important

The holidays are fast approaching. I hope that you plan to have visitors in your home. Hospitality is a factor in many aspects of our lives. Though often we do not give it a second thought. Have you ever arrived some place and felt ignored or unwelcome? Good hospitality would never allow that. My grandmother was always a hospitable and gracious hostess. She always taught the family that hospitality is important. Not only when being a host, but that it was equally important when one was a guest.

Being Good Host/HostessHospitality is important

What makes someone a good host or hostess? I think the character traits of honesty, compassion and generosity are key. Grandma always had a warm inviting way about her. She greeted visitors with a smile and always offered them something to eat and drink. The fare was always simple, home-made and delicious. Grandma offered food and drink freely, never with a sense of duty or expectation of repayment. Listening to your guests and responding with sincere, thoughtful words makes a great host. Being kind, generous and compassionate toward your guests will make them feel welcome.

So how do I get better?

Becoming a better host or hostess is like becoming better at any part of your life. It requires an effort. It requires a direction. And it requires some understanding. The understanding is the easy part. Knowing what you as a good host or hostess must do is the first step. Have a clean, inviting home. You do not need a palace or even a huge sitting room to be a good host. You do need something to drink and eat to offer your guests. It can be as simple as water and peanut butter crackers. Here are some good tips for hospitality on a budget.

Hospitality is important. We can make the world a more inviting place, one visit at a time. You get better by practicing. If you are having trouble getting started, invite a good friend over and practice with them. When you feel more comfortable, ask that friend to bring someone with them. Keep practicing and soon you will be a hospitable and gracious host or hostess.

How do I develop compassion?

How Do I Develop Compassion?

How do I develop compassion?

How do I develop compassion?Simply be compassionate. Commit acts of caring. Don’t be lazy or timid and take the easy way out by ignoring those in need around us. How do I develop compassion? By taking action.Does being compassionate alone make one a compassionate person? Does it need a kind act once a week, or once a day or once an hour? It is not easily defined, yet we see someone and we are quick to label them. So how do I develop a trait that we all recognize but have trouble defining? I say don’t worry about the definition so much and simply take action.

Why do I even care?

Why do we even care? A great article on Seeds of Compassion gives you some answers. Also an unscientific internet poll of 176 people, ranked a group of character traits in order of importance. The top three in order are trustworthiness, compassion and loyalty. Countless blogs, websites and organizations write about and promote compassion everyday. We have the #1000Speak group that started on Twitter and is growing. Sites like Zen Habits often write about compassion. To quote from Paul Gilbert’s article on The Greater Good,

“We need compassion because life is hard.” – Paul Gilbert

How do I develop compassion? By making a conscious effort every single day to better than you were the day before. By taking action and doing a kind and caring thing for someone that can never repay you. Don’t ask what you can get out of situation. Instead, ask what you can give. If you have an hour or so, check out the following video from the Dalai Lama

Where’s the handbook?

There is no single book or class that will teach you to be a good, caring person of character. It takes hard work, perseverance and action. Every. Single. Day. You are either moving forward or sliding backwards. You may think you are standing still and maintaining the “status quo” but you are really moving the wrong direction. There are many religious books that have good thoughts in them and studying them is useful if you are so inclined. Having the knowledge in those books is a good thing, but knowledge is no substitute for action. An act of compassion touches much more that the person you act toward. It makes you a more compassionate person, It moves those that see your generous action. How do I develop compassion? The same way you develop any other character trait, action, daily practice and hard work.

Leave your thoughts and questions on developing compassion in the comments below. Please use the social media links to share with your friends.

Women’s Self Defense Dallas

Free Women’s Self Defense Dallas, TX

If you find yourself in the NorthTexas area this Saturday and have a need or wish to learn about women’s self defense Dallas. Come check it out!

Open To The Female Public, Saturday Nov 21, 10am – Noon

Invite your friends and join us for this great interactive program!

Learn some safety and self defense

We’ll cover police safety, awareness and basic self defense. Complimentary child care is available for kids ages 4 and up. Primo Brother’s Pizza lunch is provided for women and kids.

Break a board

Participants can also break a board for a buck. Proceeds benefit Genesis Women’s Shelter.

When: Saturday, November 21st, 10am – Noon
Where: St. John’s Episcopal School, 484 Harter Road, Dallas, TX

Self Defense DallasClick the image to the right to see Professor Nick Chamberlain discuss women’s self defense with FOX 4 News, Good Day.

Check out Chamberlain Studios of Self Defense website for more information.



Moving shows character

Moving Shows Character

Moving Shows Character

There are not too many things that will shine a bright light on your character and expose all the dark nooks and crannies for everyone to see. Moving across the country is one of these events. I think this is especially true if you are down-sizing and need to rid yourself of a few things. Getting ready to move is not usually too bad. The packing of the boxes often is a bit stressful especially if you do not plan and keep the things you need on a day-to-day basis separate and unpacked. Moving shows character, especially when things go wrong.

Anyone that has moved knows the many steps that can go awry. Just to name a few:

  • You don’t have enough boxesMoving shows character
  • You run out of tape
  • The truck isn’t big enough
  • The movers are late
  • The dolly has a flat tire
  • The couch does not fit through the door

Of course this list is not comprehensive, please feel free to add your own moving adventures to the comments below. No matter what you are moving to or from, there will be stress involved. How you deal with it, in essence, shows what your personal substance. Moving shows character. Up-sizing, down-sizing, right-sizing does not matter. I find it helpful take a short mental break now and then to release any pent-up aggression. Read, blog, go out to dinner, have some wine, but get away from the moving. I also recommend Great for that extra labor to haul heavy things up and down stairs.

Yes, moving shows character. So does any stressful situation in which you find yourself. Learning to relax and breathe can help. Having good character is a great think, but character really needs displaying when you find yourself in a difficult situation.

What are some of your moving or other stories where your character was on display for all to see? I’m looking forward to your thoughts.