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Break these rules

Break These Rules To Create Happiness

Break These Rules

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Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. – Dalai Lama

Break These 4 Rules To Create HappinessYou’ve heard the saying before…. Rules are made to be broken, right? Well the same thing applies here.

Indeed rules ARE made to be broken, especially if you expect to create happiness for yourself. Break these rules!

A lack of happiness in most cases is a result of abiding to rules, being a victim to the rules and playing by the rules too obediently.

Break these 4 rules to create happiness, and you’ll be wondering why you never broke them sooner.

1. Speak your mind and state your opinions.

Break these rulesWhen you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace, despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret. ― Shannon L. Alder
You might not see this as a “rule” to be broken, but I assure you it is within the society we live in.

Just look at all the people who are being criticized in this world or having people point fingers at them.

It’s those who speak up, speak out and let their voices be heard. Not the individual who’s too afraid to express his or her opinions.

Malcolm X, Snoop Dogg, Donald Trump, 2Pac and Martin Luther King are just a few of those fearless people.

Holding back actually makes you less confident and less happy because you end up afraid of being criticized for it.

Speak your mind freely and you’ll be much happier as a result.

2. Say NO more often.

The problem with human beings, we’re prone to saying “yes” when we’re asked to do a favor.

We even say “yes” to things that we know deep down won’t bring us satisfaction. Or worse. We do things that go against our beliefs and violate our authenticity.

Do that often enough and you’ll be throwing up the feelings of unhappiness on a daily basis.

You have to protect your time the same way a driver protects their money with car insurance.

Say yes only when it’s relevant and weigh up each request or opportunity that comes your way.

You’ll find it makes a massive difference to your happiness and how you feel about yourself.

3. Be a little selfish.

Sometimes you have to be selfish to be selfless. – Edward Albert

Another surprising rule many people are uncomfortable with breaking. Usually because of the negative label that’s attached to being selfish.

What If I told you being selfish is not only good for you, but good for others around you?

What If I told you being selfish can make you a happier person inside and out?

Think about it this way.

If you’re too busy putting others before yourself, you won’t have time for YOU.
If you’re make too much time for others, you can’t make time for yourself.
If you make others a priority, you and your needs are no longer a priority.

And If you’re not a priority, you won’t have time left to make yourself happy and do the things that add to your happiness.

Be a little selfish and never forget to treat yourself as good as you’d treat others. Self love is important.

4. Do the things you believe in.

Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe. – Saint Augustine

When you get in your own way and back down from the things you believe in, you cause yourself grief.

Lets say you were sat at a black, glass table with 6 chairs and 6 people. And there was a debate on a topic you feel strongly about.

What would happen If you didn’t express yourself?

It would Irritate you a little, right? It would almost feel wrong to not express your view on the matter.

When you make a habit out of that as a result of not wanting to be criticized for it, it kills you a little inside.

And that leads to a sense of unhappiness and inadequacy.

That’s why making the habit of doing what you believe in is crucial to being happy.

Breaking this 1 simple rule will make a huge difference to your attitude. Break these rules!

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Weekend Coffee Share Birthday Edition

Coffee Share Year End

Coffee Share

If we were having coffee, after we get settled with our favorite hot beverage, I would tell you that we had a great Christmas. We had a guest over a late lunch and some games. We played two games that we had not seen. Pandemic, which is a cooperative game of humans against the diseases. The diseases won. The other was Ticket to Ride. The object was to get the most points by building train routes between different cities on a map of the US. Both were fun and entertaining. After lunch and the gaming, we decided to go see the new Star Wars movie. I will not mention any spoilers. I thought the plot was very similar to Episode IV, the first movie of the series. Now that I’ve jabbered on a bit, How was your holiday? This is the weekend coffee share, so share! 🙂

I’m getting back into the book as soon as this article is posted. Time to re-read it and hack it apart again. I’m still trying to figure out my real target audience. Any thoughts, suggestions, pointers in the target audience arena would be most appreciated. Finishing the final draft is on the books for first quarter. We’ll see how it goes.

A few photos from around Dallas at Christmas. What do you around the holidays? Drive around and look at lights and decorations? Plan a trip? Get some movies and hot chocolate and stay indoors? Leave a comment below. Share with your friends.

Don’t forget to write your own coffee share and visit Diana t Part Time Monster to add your link to the linky.

Inspiration Friday Foto


What is inspiration? It is that thought or feeling that nudges or pushes to be better than we are today. What are some things, thoughts, ideas or people who inspire you? Better yet, who or what do you inspire?

What do you need to be inspired to do?

Where do you look for inspiration?


To inspire is incredible

Photo Inspiration

Here is a random collection of photos that represent thing, thoughts or people who inspire me. The Lincoln Memorial for Abraham Lincoln. A man from simple beginnings. Mr. Lincoln became President of the United States during one of our countries most turbulent times. The Washington Monument represents the ideals upon which our country was founded. There is hope that we will return to those ideals. World War II Veterans give me inspiration. I can only imagine what they faced and then  returned home to take up business as usual. Nature in all its awesome beauty both large and small encourages and relaxes me.

Simple things like men working and doing things the old-fashioned way give me strength when I am tired. Hand-woven and dyed cloth amazes me and sparks my imagination with the intricate threading and designs. Civilizations, both old and new bring inspiration in how people live together in closeness.

Grandma always inspired me by how she was able to amazing things with a needle and thread. Even though she had severe arthritis, she was still able to sew, knit and crochet. Yarn or thread would go in one side and these really beautiful items would come out the other. Never a word of complaint passed her lips about the knots on her hands and fingers. Anytime I work on something and feet like quitting, I always remember Grandma.

What are some things, thoughts or people who inspire you?

Do you have time for character?

Do you have time for character?

Do you have time for character?

Sometimes it’s easy to look away, keep walking and ignore the world around us. It takes a bit of personal character, John Wayne would say grit, to stop, notice and act. I’m not saying you should try to stop a bank robbery single-handed, but at least take notice of the surroundings. Take a picture, call 911, stay safe, but do something. Do you have time for character?

Something Simple

Hopefully you will never have to face a situation that requires you to risk your life more than a morning commute in Dallas traffic. While that might be more than some can tolerate, the commute is not really that bad.

Character is displayed in many ways, as can lack of character. How do you react when someone cuts you off in traffic? What is your thought when a stalled car is blocking a lane on the freeway and you are running late? Your responses to simple things like these are important. Do you smile and wave with your whole hand, not just one finger? Do you stop behind the person, turn on your flashers and help them push their car out of the way? Or do you just get angry and accelerate as soon as you are able?

It is natural to be annoyed at things or people who impede your progress in any way. My grandmother was always slow to anger. She made sure that we knew when she was displeased, but never in an angry manner. Her approach was always with love, kindness and compassion. Do you have time for character?

Character starts early

As a child we learn the basics of character. Trust. Kindness. Compassion. Loyalty. These foundations are what we build upon to become the person that we want to be. If we aim high, we keep getting better. Do not become discouraged, but ask yourself “Am I better today than I was yesterday?” Change does not have to be large to have an impact. Have you ever watched a wasp build a nest? It is done one tiny bit at a time. Do you have time for character?

What are your thoughts and experiences on developing character?