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A helping hand for the world

Compassion Is Not For You If…

Compassion is not for you if…

You are lazy or weak. In order to show compassion, you must become strong. Not physically, but emotionally. Being mentally strong can help too. But without some level of emotion, you cannot be compassionate.

It’s like exercising your muscles. Don’t go and try to lift 100 pounds on your first attempt. Start small and make incremental increases every week. The same with compassion. Don’t go out and try to save the world. Start small. Do a small act of compassion. Help someone you don’t know.  If you don’t feel comfortable acting in person, try supporting an organization like Compassion International.

Ideas for Compassion


Pay attention to the elderly

Not sure where or how to start? Try following some groups or hashtags on twitter like Compassion International or 1000 Speak.  Here are some more ideas that might help you exercise your compassionate muscle and become a stronger compassionate person.

  • Volunteer at a food bank
  • Visit the elderly or the shut in
  • Simply be kind to everyone
  • Volunteer at a soup kitchen
  • Visit a veteran at the hospital
  • Feed the homeless
  • Teach something you know to a child
  • Sponsor a child
  • Adopt a pet from a shelter
  • Call a friend that you haven’t talked to in a while
  • Allow someone to be compassionate to you

I would love to hear things you do to be compassionate. Please leave your thoughts in the comments below.

Does Compassion Build Character?

Or does having character help you be compassionate? I would say yes to both. A person of good character knows that having and showing compassion is good. Some one that exhibits compassionate behavior strengthens their character. Which comes first? I don’t think it matters. For me, it is the result that is important, not the steps of how we got there.

Other Thoughts

Why should we care?

If we don’t have compassion, we can not have peace. Check out this great article about building a compassionate army by Dr. Elisha Goldstein. We must become able to reach out to people in need and help them. It’s starts now, It starts with you. It starts with one small act.

Please share this thought with your friends on social media and leave your thoughts below in the comments.

How do I develop compassion?

How Do I Develop Compassion?

How do I develop compassion?

How do I develop compassion?Simply be compassionate. Commit acts of caring. Don’t be lazy or timid and take the easy way out by ignoring those in need around us. How do I develop compassion? By taking action.Does being compassionate alone make one a compassionate person? Does it need a kind act once a week, or once a day or once an hour? It is not easily defined, yet we see someone and we are quick to label them. So how do I develop a trait that we all recognize but have trouble defining? I say don’t worry about the definition so much and simply take action.

Why do I even care?

Why do we even care? A great article on Seeds of Compassion gives you some answers. Also an unscientific internet poll of 176 people, ranked a group of character traits in order of importance. The top three in order are trustworthiness, compassion and loyalty. Countless blogs, websites and organizations write about and promote compassion everyday. We have the #1000Speak group that started on Twitter and is growing. Sites like Zen Habits often write about compassion. To quote from Paul Gilbert’s article on The Greater Good,

“We need compassion because life is hard.” – Paul Gilbert

How do I develop compassion? By making a conscious effort every single day to better than you were the day before. By taking action and doing a kind and caring thing for someone that can never repay you. Don’t ask what you can get out of situation. Instead, ask what you can give. If you have an hour or so, check out the following video from the Dalai Lama

Where’s the handbook?

There is no single book or class that will teach you to be a good, caring person of character. It takes hard work, perseverance and action. Every. Single. Day. You are either moving forward or sliding backwards. You may think you are standing still and maintaining the “status quo” but you are really moving the wrong direction. There are many religious books that have good thoughts in them and studying them is useful if you are so inclined. Having the knowledge in those books is a good thing, but knowledge is no substitute for action. An act of compassion touches much more that the person you act toward. It makes you a more compassionate person, It moves those that see your generous action. How do I develop compassion? The same way you develop any other character trait, action, daily practice and hard work.

Leave your thoughts and questions on developing compassion in the comments below. Please use the social media links to share with your friends.


If we were having coffee, I would say that I need to grab a really large cup of coffee before I talk. It’s been a busy week at work. Several projects having issues that need to be resolved. Fortunately, things are starting to look up. I would ask if you have made progress on choosing and improving an aspect of your character.  I would tell you that I’ve been working on my patience this week especially while driving. My goal is to be aware of my yelling at other drivers and trying reduce the count. I’m down a few this week, but still have room for improvement. I wrote a blog for the #1000Speak Bully edition. It exceeded my expectations in terms of comments. It was nice to see the number of people who will stand up and stop bullying.

I would ask if you have any fun projects or plans in the works and then I would tell you about my books. The book on character still needs a good name. The outline and first few chapters are done and I plan to complete the first draft before the April A-to-Z Challenge kicks off. Did I mention I signed up for that? What was I thinking?  Any way, the character book is coming along nicely.  The second book is a work of science fiction.  I have a very rough story outline, some name ideas and maybe a chapter written on it. There is no deadline as of yet.  My plan here is to test chapters and characters in an occasional post on Down Home Thoughts or maybe on a writing blog somewhere. Not really sure.

Well I’ve finished my coffee and I need to get back to my lovely wife and enjoy the rest of our weekend.  I hope that you have a pleasant, thoughtful and bully free weekend.

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