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Developing character

Developing Character

Developing Character

Developing character is hard work. What are some things we should all consider when developing character? The first, in my opinion is figure out one thing to focus on improving. Do

Developing Character

A little nudge

not try to tackle everything. Be specific. Figure out where to start. Everyone needs a little help now and then. Find a friend or mentor that you trust. Someone from whom you expect honest feedback and more importantly, someone to whom you will listen. You must accept open criticism and suggestions from them. In return, they will help you improve and help you stay on track. in your journey to grow.

Start Here

Figure out one thing that you really want to improve. Maybe it’s your honesty, being more trustworthy or perhaps more helpful. Here is a list of traits to help you think about areas to build. Lifehack also has some ways to grow. A more academic approach is to study a 36 week course. That is a little too intense for most of us. Perhaps just sticking with one thing at a time is best.

Take Action

Developing CharacterMaking a decision is a beginning. Without action, however, you will not succeed. Action which will need to be repeated over and over until it becomes habit.

Thoughts become actions, actions become habits, habits become character. Click To Tweet

Daily Plan

Set your daily plan for developing character. Keep it small and manageable. Focus on one piece of one area. For example, you want to improve your driving courtesy. One aspect of this is to slow down. Maybe you need to leave for all of your appoints 15 minutes earlier than usual. Do that everyday for a week and see how it goes.

Weekly Review

Improving YourselfThe weekly review requires honesty from both you and your mentor. You must be willing to truthfully report your successes and failures. Discuss options to improve or prevent future negative outcomes. As with the above example leaving 15 minutes earlier for appointments, you only yelled at other drivers half as much as before. That is a great improvement and should be celebrated. Now focus on ideas to get the number of drivers you yell at down to zero.

Repeat Until Done

Repeat until done. The real kicker here is that you are never done.

Summary

your-actions-speak-so-loud-that-i-cant-hear-what-youre-saying1Remember that forging character, improving yourself, self-development, whatever you want to call it is hard work. Much like carving a marble statue, it takes time, dedication and effort. This journey is not for the faint of heart. You’ve read this far, now take some action.

  1. Make a decision and pick an area to grow
  2. Take action – find an accountability partner
  3. Set up a daily plan for small improvements
  4. Review weekly with your mentor
  5. Repeat until you have a new habit

Thoughts

I would love to hear your challenges or areas that need help. Mine is courtesy. I need to improve my attitude towards those with which I share the road. I need to slow down and not try to push those ahead of me driving much to slowly.

Please leave your thoughts below and if you are so inclined use the social medias buttons to share with your friends. The more people we have discussing the subject of better character, the better our world will be.

Improving Yourself

Improving Yourself

Improving Yourself

Where do we start? Improving yourself is a wide open topic. There are many areas and aspects of one’s self that could be improved upon.  You can check out a list of 70 traits if you need some food for thought. My thoughts on improving are to take a broad look at your life and ask yourself the following questions:

  1. Improving YourselfWhat areas of my life are not aligned with my goals?
  2. What areas do I want to improve?
  3. Which ones would be the best (not easiest) to upgrade?
  4. Are there one or two that I can get specific help with from a mentor?
  5. Am I willing to put forth the effort to find and change my habits and traits for the better?

Where to start

Once you have answered the questions, narrow your list down to the top two or three items. I recommend working with an accountability partner. This can be a mentor or a close friend. You must be able to take honest criticism from this person. Improving yourself is not easy. It will need mental effort and willpower.

TrustworthyStart improving. Repeat. It’s really that simple. Ok, the repeat part is hard to keep going. This is why you need a mentor or friend to help.

Seriously, take a leap and begin. Then work on a plan to keep the momentum going. Do one thing everyday to move in the direction you have chosen. Check with your mentor as often as you need to for support and encouragement.  If you need a plan, check out this article on tips for on strenghening your character.

Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. ― George Bernard Shaw #quote Click To Tweet

Attitude

What attitude should you take when improving yourself? I think Hemingway had a great thought when he said, “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.

Focus on being better than you were yesterday. Do not be concerned with what your neighbor is or isn’t doing. The only contest is with yourself. Are you better than you were the day before? If the answer is yes, then you win.

What are your thoughts?

Do you have tips on how to improve? Maybe even a great success story? I would love to hear about it. If you like the post, please share it with your friends using the social media buttons.

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Cheerful

Being Cheerful

What does cheerful have to do with Character? It is part of having a good attitude and it is more important than you think. Take a moment to think about the people who you have to spend time with. Would you prefer happy, smiling cheerful attitudes? Or do you like someone who complains, whines and runs everyone around them into the ground?

I really hope you said the person with the great attitude. Martha Washington gave us a great thought on being cheerful:

Be cheerful and happy in every situation. The greater part of our misery is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition. – Martha Washington

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Why being cheerful is important

Being cheerful helps not only you, but everyone around you. A good attitude goes a long way toward making work more fun. Relationships are easier to manage when you adopt an enthusiastic attitude. People prefer to be around those who are cheerful.

Still not convinced? Check out the stories on Wisdom Commons. Many good things come from being a person that others wish to be around.

Benefits of being cheerful

Here are just a few of the benefits of having a happy countenance. Don’t take my word for it. John Hopkins Medical has a great article on Cheerfulness and Heart Health.

  • Helps you be more healthy
  • Helps you generate more ideas
  • Solves problems easier
  • Makes you new friends
  • Turns enemies into friends
  • Helps in resolving misunderstandings
  • Builds deeper relationships
  • Increases your immunity
  • Recovers from illness faster
  • Makes pain and sadness easier to bear
  • Fills you with increased vitality
  • Makes you more attractive
  • Increases your charisma and charm
  • Makes you more money and increases your wealth
  • Keeps you strong in all aspects, (physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, spiritually, financially and others)
  • Makes work more enjoyable
  • Makes tough challenges easier to bear
  • Makes life more meaningful and purposeful.
  • Prolong your life
  • Makes your community and the world a better place to live
ways to be kind

Ways to be kind

Ways to be kind

Being kind is not that hard. You can start by being kind to yourself. Grandma always said being kind is simple. You just do things for other people. Being kind can make you happier according to LifeHack. Need some more ideas on ways to be kind? Check out WikiHow’s article on how to be kind. Or Virtues for Life list of 100 ways to be kinder. You don’t have to inconvenience yourself. You can simply hold a door for someone or give them a smile. Perhaps offer a helping hand with a heavy bag. Donate blood. Donate your used books to local library or shelter.

“Goodness is about character – integrity, honesty, kindness, generosity, moral courage, and the like. More than anything else, it is about how we treat other people.”Dennis Prager

Why be kind?

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted - Aesop #quote #kindness Click To Tweet

ways to be kindBeing kind can make you happier as noted above. Everyone likes being around people who are kind.

You might save a life

The world will be a better place if more people are kind every day. If you think simply talking to someone and listening won’t help. Then read this article: Your act of kindness might save a life. Sometimes all we need is to know that we are not alone.

Kindness is important in many organizations. The Boy Scouts thought it was important enough to make it one of their 12 laws. The major religions of the world all have verses extolling us to be kind to one another.

What are your favorite ways to be kind? Leave your thoughts below to start the conversation. Do you follow any You Tube channels or groups that encourage kindness? If you do, please share them. That would be kind 🙂