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Distraction

Distraction and Life; Can You Manage?

Distraction

What does distraction have to do with life? Everything. There are hundreds of thousands of tweets, texts, news clips, podcasts, books, television shows, movies, and other social media. vying for your time and attention. Did mention advertisers? Yeah, them too. Managing your distractions are a must.

Managing distraction

Focus to manage distractionEasily said, but this requires a little discipline. Perhaps it also requires a bit of personal character or willpower. There are so many things happening everywhere around us. Radio, television, email, Facebook, Twitter, What’s App just to name a few. Sure, I know, but how do I manage all these things vying for my attention?

One simple way is to limit your distractions. Turn off your phone and email when working at your computer. Do not try to “multi-task.”  Very few people multi-task at useful level. Stephen Monsell found that for most of us, it just increases the time to switch between tasks versus staying on the same task.

Mindtools.com has a great article on multi-tasking and how to quit. Things like limiting your interruptions (cell phone, email, texts, etc.)

Consequences

What happens if I am not able to control my focus? The best case is you get behind on your work and you feel behind and disorganized. The worst, I hate to say, but could lead to death. Your life or someone else’s could be forfeit. Can you say, “texting and driving” anyone?

Would you want your doctor or pharmacist distracted? I think not.

I would love to hear your thoughts on what you do to avoid or limit distractions?

 

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Self Improvement

Self Improvement

Why do we care about improving ourselves? Does self improvement matter? I think the answer to both questions are found in the following quote:

Men of character are the conscience of the society in which they live-Ralph Waldo Emerson… Click To Tweet

Self ImprovementEmerson implies that for society, the group containing all of us, to have a conscience, there exist people of character. By character, we assume he means good character. This begs the question, what is good character? I think we all understand at some level what most people consider good character. How do we go about developing or improving character? How do we help each other?

Helping Improve Character

There are many ways to approach self improvement. Learn a new skill or language. Read a book. Improve your vocabulary. Work on building trust. It really depends on why you are trying to improve.

If you want to improve your life and those around you, work on improving your character. You may have great character, but we can all improve. We all have areas that could use some polish.

How do you improve?

Start by taking an honest look at your life. Get feedback from a trusted friend or mentor. Pick one thing, trait or area to focus on for your self improvement effort. Then the hardest part is to take action and keep repeating until the desired improvement is complete.

Encourage others to join you in your journey. They do not have to pick the same area you chose. People need a nudge or sometimes a shove to get started on journey that is difficult. And let me tell you, that the journey to improve is not only endless, it contains pot-holes, trip-wires, land mines and many other things that will derail you.

When that happens, you and your mentor go back to your plan and adjust as needed.

What are your challenges?

What is character?Do you have an area or trait that you want to improve, but don’t where to start? Leave a comment or send me an email. I want to help. I need your help to spread the word of encouragement to others.

With your help, we can improve the world one person at a time.

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Developing character

Developing Character

Developing Character

Developing character is hard work. What are some things we should all consider when developing character? The first, in my opinion is figure out one thing to focus on improving. Do

Developing Character

A little nudge

not try to tackle everything. Be specific. Figure out where to start. Everyone needs a little help now and then. Find a friend or mentor that you trust. Someone from whom you expect honest feedback and more importantly, someone to whom you will listen. You must accept open criticism and suggestions from them. In return, they will help you improve and help you stay on track. in your journey to grow.

Start Here

Figure out one thing that you really want to improve. Maybe it’s your honesty, being more trustworthy or perhaps more helpful. Here is a list of traits to help you think about areas to build. Lifehack also has some ways to grow. A more academic approach is to study a 36 week course. That is a little too intense for most of us. Perhaps just sticking with one thing at a time is best.

Take Action

Developing CharacterMaking a decision is a beginning. Without action, however, you will not succeed. Action which will need to be repeated over and over until it becomes habit.

Thoughts become actions, actions become habits, habits become character. Click To Tweet

Daily Plan

Set your daily plan for developing character. Keep it small and manageable. Focus on one piece of one area. For example, you want to improve your driving courtesy. One aspect of this is to slow down. Maybe you need to leave for all of your appoints 15 minutes earlier than usual. Do that everyday for a week and see how it goes.

Weekly Review

Improving YourselfThe weekly review requires honesty from both you and your mentor. You must be willing to truthfully report your successes and failures. Discuss options to improve or prevent future negative outcomes. As with the above example leaving 15 minutes earlier for appointments, you only yelled at other drivers half as much as before. That is a great improvement and should be celebrated. Now focus on ideas to get the number of drivers you yell at down to zero.

Repeat Until Done

Repeat until done. The real kicker here is that you are never done.

Summary

your-actions-speak-so-loud-that-i-cant-hear-what-youre-saying1Remember that forging character, improving yourself, self-development, whatever you want to call it is hard work. Much like carving a marble statue, it takes time, dedication and effort. This journey is not for the faint of heart. You’ve read this far, now take some action.

  1. Make a decision and pick an area to grow
  2. Take action – find an accountability partner
  3. Set up a daily plan for small improvements
  4. Review weekly with your mentor
  5. Repeat until you have a new habit

Thoughts

I would love to hear your challenges or areas that need help. Mine is courtesy. I need to improve my attitude towards those with which I share the road. I need to slow down and not try to push those ahead of me driving much to slowly.

Please leave your thoughts below and if you are so inclined use the social medias buttons to share with your friends. The more people we have discussing the subject of better character, the better our world will be.

Improving Yourself

Improving Yourself

Improving Yourself

Where do we start? Improving yourself is a wide open topic. There are many areas and aspects of one’s self that could be improved upon.  You can check out a list of 70 traits if you need some food for thought. My thoughts on improving are to take a broad look at your life and ask yourself the following questions:

  1. Improving YourselfWhat areas of my life are not aligned with my goals?
  2. What areas do I want to improve?
  3. Which ones would be the best (not easiest) to upgrade?
  4. Are there one or two that I can get specific help with from a mentor?
  5. Am I willing to put forth the effort to find and change my habits and traits for the better?

Where to start

Once you have answered the questions, narrow your list down to the top two or three items. I recommend working with an accountability partner. This can be a mentor or a close friend. You must be able to take honest criticism from this person. Improving yourself is not easy. It will need mental effort and willpower.

TrustworthyStart improving. Repeat. It’s really that simple. Ok, the repeat part is hard to keep going. This is why you need a mentor or friend to help.

Seriously, take a leap and begin. Then work on a plan to keep the momentum going. Do one thing everyday to move in the direction you have chosen. Check with your mentor as often as you need to for support and encouragement.  If you need a plan, check out this article on tips for on strenghening your character.

Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything. ― George Bernard Shaw #quote Click To Tweet

Attitude

What attitude should you take when improving yourself? I think Hemingway had a great thought when he said, “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.

Focus on being better than you were yesterday. Do not be concerned with what your neighbor is or isn’t doing. The only contest is with yourself. Are you better than you were the day before? If the answer is yes, then you win.

What are your thoughts?

Do you have tips on how to improve? Maybe even a great success story? I would love to hear about it. If you like the post, please share it with your friends using the social media buttons.